Pride is a funny thing.
So easily people perceive it as showing off, boasting, or gloating.
If your child has achieved something, no matter how big or small and you inform other parents about it, there will undoubtedly be sniggering behind your bag. People will think that you are bragging about your child, which is deemed socially unacceptable.
It is not bragging, it is informing people of your child’s achievements and as a parents, that is what you should be doing.
Yet it is the social norm that we must not share our achievements, we must only share details when things have gone wrong.
Why is this?
Why are we not able to take delight when things are going well? Why do people speak unkindly about you if you inform them of a certain accomplishment for you and/ or your child? This inability to be pleased for others is somewhat unsettling and surely this convention needs to be reversed.
It would be lovely to tell of a success such as a swimming badge, spelling test results, reading level without the threat of green eyed monsters about to lurch upon you. In exactly the same way we should be able to expect sympathy when something goes awry.
These unfair comments, I have found, are not just limited to playground chit chat or after school playdates, but within the business world too.
I work extremely hard for my business, I am dedicated to it so why should I not be able to share my pride without the risk that someone thinks I am merely showing off? I want to be able to tell my story and listen to others as well.
If I were to hear of someone doing well in their business, I would think, ‘fantastic’ or ‘good for you’. We may even be able to share thoughts or ideas, learning from one another.
We can always learn from others and we should. But to do this we must have more honest communication, enabling us to dispense advice and to ask for it, without feeling embarrassed or ashamed.
If someone has achieved a particular goal we should be able to shout it from the roof tops and anticipate a rapturous round of applause as opposed to the threat of falling off the roof by stones being thrown. We should be proud of others achievements, with the hope that their good news encourages us to work that extra bit harder, or try a new approach.
Having recently attended an awards ceremony which bestowed honors to ‘heroes’ within the community, for various achievements, ‘Emergency Hero’, ‘Caring Hero’, ‘Community Hero’, it would be wonderful if we could continue this credit, this spirit of being pleased for oneself and for others to all aspects of our lives.
Pride is marvelous; pride encourages, inspires and motivates!
Be proud of your achievements and share those of others.
Now go and do something you can be proud of (and be sure to tell me about it!)
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This post was written by The Repairs By Post Team H